The concept of etiquette and civility has been around for a very long time. I recently finished a novel called “Rules of Civility” that included mention of George Washington’s Rules of Civility & Decent Behaviour in Company and Conversation. Apparently, at age 16, young George (yes, eventual first president of the United States) copied by hand for a penmanship exercise 110 rules of civility written by French Jesuits in 1590. Those rules were then made into a book by Mr. Washington. Continue reading “What George Washington knew about etiquette” »
Kindness is showing love to someone else. I believe that kindness is the cure for violence and hatred around the world.
The January 1st Parade magazine edition had an article about making 2017 the year of being kind and included the lovely quote above by Lady Gaga. According to the article, studies have shown that being kind has many benefits not only for the receiver but the giver as well. When you are kind to others it lights up your brain’s reward center. Hospital patients who are treated with kindness and compassion have less pain, anxiety and shorter hospital visits. And conversely, kind doctors are less tired and are more engaged. Neighbors who are social and help each other have tighter knit neighborhoods and are less isolated. Kids who exhibit emotional intelligence, which includes kindness, are shown to have more success in life. Continue reading “The year of kindness: Join me on a kindness journey” »
I recently discovered something about myself that was dismaying. It’s such a simple thing but I realized my actions were not portraying my best self.
Oh the power of “hello,” “please” and “thank you.” When they are used you often get better service, lower prices, maybe even a seat on a crowded plane. When they are not employed, you’re put in the “rude” category and are faced with possible negative consequences.
My fabulous children’s manners teacher, Jan Townsend, forwarded me a Facebook post written by someone I don’t know. The author’s name is Amy and I was both excited and moved by her words. In her post she talked about teaching her daughter, who was entering middle school, about kindness. To teach the lesson, she had her daughter Breonna squeeze out a bunch of toothpaste from a tube and then instructed her to put it back in the toothpaste tube. Her daughter protested and said she couldn’t and that it wouldn’t be like it was before. Amy waited for her daughter to finish and then taught the kindness message. This is what she said to her daughter: Continue reading “A lesson from toothpaste” »
Have you ever wondered why some people have more success in their jobs and others can’t seem to get ahead even though they are very smart? According to a Harvard University study, 85% of a person’s workplace success is due to their personal skills – those intangible skills that lead to better and smoother relationships with others – your coworkers, boss or employees.
It often doesn’t take much to be more accomplished and regarded in the workplace. Follow these five tips to help you be your best. Continue reading “Five tips for workplace success” »
Have you ever asked someone this question? Such a seemingly innocuous question. But, it’s actually a very loaded, potentially painful topic.
A few days ago I received this email from a newsletter reader. Continue reading “A verboten topic” »
I’m not a big fan of making New Year’s resolutions because I find they are easy to break after a few weeks. The gym I belong to is a perfect example of this – hordes of new people fill the classes in January and by February most of them have disappeared. It can be hard to establish new habits. However, for the second time, my husband and I made a resolution that shouldn’t be hard to keep. Continue reading “Setting attainable and enjoyable New Year’s resolutions” »
It’s National Etiquette Week – a time when we remember the importance of acting with courtesy, civility, kindness and good manners. And a good reminder it is. In our busy, rush, rush 21st century lives, it seems courtesy and kindness often take a back seat to our own agenda. For example; too often I find myself in my car quietly maligning slow drivers. As if having to go around a slow car, or wait for a driver to notice the green light is going to ruin my day. It’s really silly! Continue reading “Will it kill you to be nice?” »
It’s Be Nice to Everyone month. In January, I wrote about 12 things you could do throughout the year to be a better person. February’s focus is to show everyone the love, in honor of Valentine’s Day.
When we show the same courtesy and respect to everyone, whether the receptionist at the office or your CEO, not only do we make others feel important, we become memorable to people. It doesn’t take much to show the love. Here are some ways to do so. Continue reading “Show them the love” »