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This is a guest post by Stacy O’Daffer, Clise Etiquette Associate.
“She will finally appreciate you after she lives without you.” It’s a mother’s universal salve for the wound of a child leaving for college. That this loss will be filled at some later, undefined moment does little to sooth the heartbreak.
But then, it’s time. Not the emoticon hints via text or insinuation during a phone call, but the Mother’s Day Brunch moment. My family gathered together–Ali, my college freshman girl, teen boys Will and Henry, and dad Eric. Eric serves up the traditional holiday prompt to the group. “Tell mom what you appreciate about her.” Continue reading “Read the situation or risk losing business” »
Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
Dale Carnegie wrote this beautiful quote in his bestselling book How to Win Friends and Influence People. And it’s true. As he pointed out, when you remember and use a person’s name it makes him feel special and important. It shows you are attentive and caring. However, there is a limit to how often you should use someone’s name in a conversation, especially when you haven’t met the person. Continue reading “How to lose a prospect and annoy others” »
Can you hear it? It’s the sound of wedding bells. It’s the time of year when many true loves become married.
My husband and I recently attended his nephew’s wedding in Philadelphia. On the plane I met two other people who were flying to attend weddings. As we gear up for these joyous celebrations I thought it would be helpful to share some interesting and helpful wedding myths and truths. Continue reading “Five myths and a truth: Surprising wedding facts” »
Have you ever wondered why some people have more success in their jobs and others can’t seem to get ahead even though they are very smart? According to a Harvard University study, 85% of a person’s workplace success is due to their personal skills – those intangible skills that lead to better and smoother relationships with others – your coworkers, boss or employees.
A friend of mine, I’ll call her Sue, was having a conversation with a couple she met at a party when a colleague walked up and interrupted her discussion. Her colleague Bill didn’t acknowledge the people she was talking to and spoke only to her ignoring the others. It made the people Sue was talking to feel unimportant and left out. She didn’t know what to do because Mr. Interrupter was focused solely on her and was dominating the conversation. Continue reading “Don’t leave people hanging: The importance of introductions” »
Your company is sending you to a conference in some sunny place. Lucky you! If this is your first business trip you may feel you’ve hit the jackpot with the all-expense paid trip – airfare, hotel, a per diem. But before you zip up your bag, be sure you’ve packed not only your sunscreen, but some common sense as well.
Remember that business card app that would let you touch your phone to another person’s phone and your contact information would be exchanged? I remember a friend telling me about one called Bump and thinking, wow, what a great idea; except it no longer exists. In fact, of four apps that were tooted in a 2011 article to kill business cards three are gone.